Becoming a Surrogate Mother

Surrogacy is a path that many couples who are unable to have children of their own have chosen due to the intimacy and experiences involved in the process. There are many things that should be taken into consideration before you make the choice of becoming a surrogate mother. You should first speak with an attorney and/or an adoption agency specializing in surrogacy. They can provide you with a list of things to consider and agencies available to start you on your way, educate you on your rights as well as those of the adoptive couple and what you can expect and what is expected out of you.

When you consider on becoming a surrogate mother, you also need to decide whether you will be an independent surrogate or agency surrogate. As an independent surrogate, you need to be responsible for your own arrangements, finding the right couple, working out a contract and, if anything goes awry with the arrangements, you will be responsible for finding another couple. As an agency surrogate, all of these arrangements and legalities are managed for you by your agent. Either route you choose, make sure that you have consulted an attorney who specializes in surrogacy and adoption to serve your best interests.

The next step in becoming a surrogate involves the physical aspects or extent of the measures you are willing to take to become pregnant. You need to decide if you are willing to undergo artificial insemination, hormone therapy and/or in vitro fertilization. Each of these measures are time consuming and not fail proof, so it is always best to have an alternate plan, if possible, in case your first choice for conception does not work.

Finally, once an agency or attorney is employed in your journey to becoming a surrogate mother, psychological and physical tests need to be done to make sure that you are healthy enough to carry a child to term and that there are not any past medical or family histories that may cause pregnancy or genetic issues. Extensive counseling will be performed to ensure that you are comfortable and capable of dealing with every aspect of carrying another couple’s child and giving that child up once it is born. They will need to determine if an open or sealed adoption will take place after the birth. You as the surrogate have the right to have a say so in this matter. They will map out all expenses and payments for services rendered. These expenses will include maternity clothing, health care, dietary compensation, and salary, if applicable.

So, becoming a surrogate mother can be a wonderful adventure and a humanitarian act, but make sure you know what you are stepping into by seeking legal advice from specialists in surrogacy. You need to understand that you will be tested physically and psychologically to make sure that you are capable of handling the transition from pregnancy to adoption and be prepared that your family may also be interviewed to determine postpartum support.

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